Back to my blogging confessions series, because boy do I have stuff to discuss! Brace yourself, because this might be a long one… In today’s post, I’m spilling out all my feelings and beliefs on copy cats, fake followers and friendships.
Before I open up this discussion and dive in head first, I have one request from you guys. Let’s keep this space respectful, open-minded and most importantly transparent, OK?
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Most people start a blog in hopes to inspire others. I get it. That was part of my motivation as well. To see someone take an inspiration from you and apply to their own life is truly rewarding. That being said, copy cats are a whole different story…
When it comes to running my blog and business, I gotta admit I draw inspiration from my favorite bloggers/ celebrities/ entrepreneurs all the time. How could I not?! However, there’s a BIG difference between being inspired by someone to do something similar because you can relate to the subject, and just plain copying someone else’s content. How to avoid the latter? Different EXECUTION. Don’t just copy a template that was already designed (and somebody probably put a lot of effort into the creation), change one font and claim it yours. BE ORIGINAL. Add new elements, start a new conversation and if you truly liked somebody’s content and want to explore the same idea – at least give them credit. Trust me, nobody likes copy cats, even if they say it’s the highest form of flattery.
Now, it’s also worth noting that there are instances when bloggers do get offer the same opportunities within the same timeframe of a campaign, which means the content we produce and messages we promote might sound or look similar. And that’s OK – it’s part of the business and we should support one another! Similarly, I can’t tell you how many times I was about to publish a post only to find out right before that somebody else just covered the same topic. What to do when that happens? Stay humble, reach out to the person when that happens (only if you’re close and engage with each other a lot), comment on the coincidence and compliment their work. It’s all about being genuine and supportive, just don’t be lazy. 😉
Do I even have to cover the BUYING FOLLOWERS IS NOT WORTH IT part? I mean, the fact that we’re still talking about it and people still do it is scary. Of course, everybody should be minding their own business and not care about how others choose to run theirs, but what happened to the common decency?
I believe buying fake followers and then calling it “this is just one way of investing in my business” is a bunch of crap. Do you really believe ghost followers (or people who can’t even read your posts) will care about the content you create and promote on daily basis? No, they will come and go faster than you swiped that credit card, but I guess if you’re OK with that, then you do you. However, in my (follower’s) eyes, you just lost your credibility.
I’ve been approached by a lot of people in the blogging world lately who I feel like just wanted to get closer to learn everything they can about my business strategy – offering nothing in return. Trust me, I’m all about collaboration over competition, provided that both parties bring something to the table. Otherwise, it’s just a waste of my time.
Have I helped and offered advice to those who were just starting out in blogging? Yes, of course! Let’s be honest, it’s flattering when you’re the person someone trusts and wants advice from. I’m all about helping. The problem I have though is people who don’t do any research but choose to opt for an easy way out instead. These days, there’s so many resources on blogging and photography, and I believe it’s only fair to do research first before you reach out to someone asking for a 101 on everything they do. I’m only saying this because that’s what I’ve done when I was just starting out. Trust me, I’m still learning something new about this industry every day and I don’t shy away from asking my fellow bloggers questions IF I can’t figure something out on my own. Thoughts?
DON’T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY…
…because nobody in this industry should be acting like they’re better than anyone else. Numbers don’t matter. We all started with 0. It’s the quality of the relationships you maintain and nourish within the following you currently have, not how many of them hit the follow button. How do I know it? From my own bad experience. Personally, I don’t like to keep following a person who never responds or treats me with a cold shoulder in the DMS – only to be showing off how much they love their followers on insta stories. I can see right through you and it’s not good look.
Are you a blogger? Can you relate? I would love to hear from you!
If you didn’t catch my earlier blogging confessions, make sure to read this post on the Ugly Side of Blogging.